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The Most Powerful Question You Will Ever Be Asked

I am a therapist. My job is to talk to people and help them to solve their problems. Throughout the course of therapy I ask clients many, many questions. Questions are the heart of therapy, as they require an individual to think. That thinking process […]



 

Dialectical Behavior Therapy: For More Than Borderline Personality Disorder

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), developed by Marsha Linehan in the late 1980’s is a specific type of cognitive behavioral therapy that was originally developed to treat chronically suicidal individuals diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).  It is now considered the treatment of choice for individuals […]



 

Living with “What If” — Addressing Anxiety

There are many people who don’t know that their hesitations, fears, and even compulsive “musts” throughout the day are actually stemmed in anxiety. Regardless if the anxiety is caused from stress or trauma, the longer anxiety is ignored — the worse it usually gets. If […]



 

The Mystery of Men in Therapy Revealed

Why is it that so many men feel more comfortable opening up to a therapist — essentially a stranger — than they do their own spouse? Do they trust their therapists more than their wives? The short answer is, no, they don’t. The slightly more […]



 

Psychology Around the Net: April 22, 2017

Happy Saturday, sweet readers! This week’s Psychology Around the Net covers mindfulness vs. talk therapy, the physical and mental pros and cons of “frenemies,” the controversial “controlled drinking” treatment for problem drinking, and more. Mindfulness May Rival Talk Therapy For A Variety Of Mental Health […]



 

Keeping Anxiety at Bay: My Arsenal of Recovery

Looking back on my childhood, there was never really a time I was sure of myself. I never thought I was cute enough, smart enough, funny enough, or fun enough. In fact, I doubted that any of my playmates actually liked me. On my birthday, I […]



 

‘Help Me Figure Myself Out’: The Paved Road to the Adolescent Mind

“What do I do? I don’t know what to do with him anymore!” This is one of the many scenarios of a frantic parent knocking on the therapist’s door. Teenage years are tough, let’s not kid ourselves. We have been there, we remember. In my practice […]



 

Mindfulness: The Anchor in the Storm

Ships in the harbor need to be anchored as they are brought back from a day at sea. If ships and boats were not secured, they would drift away if a storm were to occur at night. This is an ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) […]



 

Scrupulosity OCD — You Have Choices!

“I’m such a sinner. I’m supposed to have pure thoughts. I’m so wicked!” Destiny’s incessant thoughts compelled her to pray, sing hymns, confess, and repent to no avail. Her religious leaders kept telling her that she was not a sinner. They reassured her by telling […]



 

How Do You Stay Motivated When You Want to Give Up?

“Of course, motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.” – Zig Ziglar If you are like most people, there are days when you just aren’t feelin’ it. It might mean hiding under the […]



 

How to Find Accurate, Evidence-Based Information on Mood Disorders

If I had to choose just one piece of advice to give to the person disabled by depression or any mood disorder, it would be this: Work with the right professionals and seek out accurate, evidence-based information. In 2006, having spent years absorbing inaccurate information […]



 

Are You Flexible Enough for Marriage?

Flexibility is a sign of mental health, psychiatrist Tom Smith used to say when we were colleagues San Francisco’s Alcoholism Evaluation and Treatment Center. I was single then and in my late twenties. The men I dated were usually flexible. They had to be, because […]



 

Repaving the Road

“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.” – Lewis Carroll Yesterday, I spent 12 hours sitting in my therapy office as I worked with clients who brought with them, a collective steamer trunk of challenges, trauma history, pain, […]



 

Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation Continues to Fail: How Many Kids Must Die Before We Change?

As I write this article I am disgusted, feel responsible and I am ashamed to be a part of an industry that continues to flourish in spite of continued failure. I reflect on 20 years of being around the drug and alcohol rehabilitation industry and […]



 

Tips on Choosing the Right Therapist

Sometimes when confronted with the harsh realities of life and how to effectively cope with such situations, it might be worth it to seek out a qualified therapist who is able to be objective, while helping you resolve any recurring problem, however short or long […]